Comparison. We all do it and according to Leo Babauta, “we look at what others are doing and we wish we were doing that too. We scoff at what they are doing and judge them and see ourselves as better. One makes us feel bad, the other makes us feel superior. Neither makes us happy.” Theodore Roosevelt argues that “comparing your work, your life, or whatever else will only serve to make you unhappy.” As long as we are comparing ourselves to something, instead of judging our work, lives and relationships by our own values and principles, we rob ourselves of joy.
“Why compare yourself to others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”- Unknown
The ability to have the strength of conviction to believe in oneself stems from a good and healthy self-esteem. Many beliefs you hold today about yourself, stem from messages your received from parents, siblings, peers, teachers, and other important people growing up. Those individuals with a healthy self-esteem are somehow better at believing in themselves. Those whose self-esteem was affected by criticism, being teased, devalued and negative treatment, may struggle with self value, sometimes looking to others to find value in themselves. As adults, it is our own thoughts, beliefs and perceptions that shape and influence our self-esteem and our place in the world. Change your thoughts and beliefs about yourself and you have the power to change your world and your place within it.
Having more than or less than does not make you a better person nor bring joy to your life. Joy begins with YOU, YOUR belief in Yourself, living YOUR passion, loving YOUR relationships. It does not include comparison to anyone or anything else. Individuals who are joyful celebrate rather than compare themselves to the accomplishments of others. Living your life believing that the opinions of others is none of your business, can be the first step to freedom and living a life of non-comparison. Hallelujah!
Living a healthy life means we never lose sight of ourselves, our dreams, our desires and passions, our journey. It may appear that those who have more lead a happier life, but, no one truly knows the journey of another. You do not walk in their shoes. You do not walk their path. So be careful what you wish for in another, their life, wealth, job, status, looks, etc. You may not realize your richness lies in valuing yourself. The fact that you are on this earth and have a soul is value. In the presence of devaluing comments we are given a choice. Either say something positive and kind or say nothing at all. With kind and compassionate words comes joy for ourselves and others. Think of the energy it takes to verbalize negativity. When we judge and see ourselves as better, in the end it is ourselves who are affected negatively. Be joyous. Comparison robs you of yourself, moves your attentions away from the beautiful soul you are, steals the faith in your heart. Love yourself and then love others. You are no better or no less than the other souls inhabiting this space. You are JOY. On this whole planet made up of 7.3 billion people, there is no one out there like you. Imagine that!
Photography by Christine Wasnie, “Nature Speaks”