Stepping In Stepping Out


“You put your right foot in, You take your right foot out, You put your right foot in and you shake it all about. You do the hokey pokey and you  turn yourself around. That’s what it’s all about.”

 At about age 30 and from there on in, you begin to realize your life and the people in it is like the Hokey Pokey. People step in and out of your life all the time. Some stay with you for a lifetime, very rare today. Some stop in for awhile bringing laughter and joy, fun times, connectedness, friendship, a helping hand. Others pop in and out like the right foot, finding their place within the relationship is somehow a bit off and wobbly, not quite fitting in,  their direction going south while yours goes north. Perhaps a great shopping partner but, not so great at coffee and a chat. Some stop by in times of struggle while others run like they are participants in the 500 metre dash. Some are destination gatherers where adventure is shared along with sunshine and feasts at the buffet tables spread out for kings. If you live long enough, people have a way of coming back into your life, coming full circle, returning once again, having lived their life purpose, to share it with you. Finding each other in the most unexpected places and spaces, reconnecting, hearts touching hearts.

“You put your left hand in, you put your left hand out. You put your left hand in and you shake it all about. You do the hokey pokey and you turn yourself around. That’s what it’s all about.”

Whether people come into your life for just a little while, their stay long, short, each one brings to you a great gift. A lesson. A teaching. Some sages, some fools, others hierophants or hermits. Magicians or lovers like the cards of the tarot, each individual brings to us an experience, mystical in it’s dealing and meaning like the spread of a card reading upon the table of your life. Few have pondered the people who come in and out, fewer still have written a list and reflected on the lessons they brought or took away. And yet, these are the very people who brought joy, sadness, anger, love and mirrored the parts of ourselves kept hidden until their presence was made known in our lives.  This is how we learn and come to know the most sacred aspects of ourselves. Through the experiences we share with others. And ponder deeper, deeper yet, still deeper, to the lessons you have brought others.

Stepping into someone’s life comes with it responsibility, courage, respect, honesty in living your most authentic self and life. You are the teacher, the provider of lessons to people you meet and greet each and every day, the people who have stepped into your life for a long while and the ones who left quickly, quietly, in a hush like wind blowing upon meadow grasses or the ones who bought the storm clouds, hurricanes, and tornados. You come to people for the very same reasons they  come to you. We are all born with the same purpose of bringing lessons. Isn’t that amazing! A commonality among all peoples. We are all teachers, some just beginning , some who have taught for awhile, others sages, wise and gentle in their ways. Students, some just beginning, finding their lessons difficult, others learning more quickly, moving through the lessons with ease and transparency. Teachers and students all of us all the time. The classroom of life. What are you here to teach?   What are you here to learn?

‘You put your whole self in, you take your whole self out. You put your whole self in and you shake it all about. You do the hokey pokey and you turn yourself around. That’s what it’s all about.”

The Hokey Pokey was written by Larry LaPrise in the United States in the 1940’s and performed by the musical group Ram Trio. My own interpretation of this delightful children’s song is a lesson about how much of ourselves we take in and out of relationships. To sing and dance to it with children is indeed a joy.

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