I do not have all the answers but, you do, is a phrase not heard very often. Instead, the common response is, here is my opinion or I know how to fix the problem. Unless you have a leaking pipe that requires the expertise of a plumber, everyday and larger life personal issues are best tackled by the person owning the problem. Thus, the responsibility for ones own life and its problems rests within that person. We all know someone who does not take responsiblity for their actions and instead prefers to ask and consult many people for the answers or their opinions on the matter. In this way, the owner of the problem never accepts accountability for solving it. The result, if the solution does not work out, the responsibility lies with the person who suggested the answer. Taking responsibilty for our problems and challenges in life is a mature course of action, one required for our growth.
Assuming responsibility for our life choices and decisions is a learning process. As young children and adults, if we were encouraged to make our own choices and supported through the process of falling down and trying again, the result is a healthy self-esteem and confidence in overcoming. If all our decisions were made for us, we grow with a lack of self-confidence and a dependence on others to solve problems for us. As adults we have not learned to trust ourselves and our own deep inner knowing. There is a disconnect between our heads, heart and soul. No one wants to see people floundering, making poor decisions, frustrated or upset. And yet, it is these very states of being that build resilience and confidence, if only we would sit in this state of dis-ease for a little while. If only others we not so quick to rescue, do for and fix.
Living your life believing all your problems and circumstance are the result of the actions or inactions of others is unhealthy. Everyone needs to be responsible for their own actions in life and understand the reasons and consequences behind their choices. Taking responsibility for our physical health is no different than taking responsibly for our emotional and spiritual health. Our thoughts, feelings and actions are also our responsiblity. No one can make you feel angry, sad, happy, frustrated or any other emotion. You alone have power over the way you process events and your reactions to them. You are responsible for yourself and your life, period, end of story.
We can take this one step further into our communities and our global world. No one else is cutting down the forests and jungles. You and I are buying the products which support this industry. No one else is polluting the environment. You and I are pouring chemicals into our systems. When you and I take responsibility, change begins. The outcome is the same for our own personal lives. Nothing will change until we each take responsibilty for ourselves and the life we live, the choices we do or do not make. By assuming responsibilty and making informed choices realizing the consequences of our actions and behaviors, when we stop placing blame on others acknowledging our own part, change begins. If we are continually solving everyone elses problems, we never have to look at our own. We do not have the answers to others life difficulties, so put that ego away. You do not have that power. Your power lies within you to solve your own circumstance. You just need to look inside and trust. Look at yourself in the mirror and say, I can do this and if I falter I have the strength to try again. You do have the answers. Be still and seek them inside of yourself. Stop giving your power away.