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Release Those Toxins


Over time our bodies are exposed to various toxins that affect our physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. When we are exposed to toxins, they are ingested through our bodies, our minds, our soul. There are environmental toxins such as the contaminated air we breathe, the food we eat, the water we drink, the recreational drugs we consume. Emotional toxins consist of guilt, shame, self-esteem issues, hate, resentment and jealousy. Bullying and abuse. Everything opposite of love. Spiritual toxins remove you and take you far away from your soul purpose. These toxins accumulate with the business of life and constant doing, getting, wanting, and needing. Loosing touch with the self.  Toxins in all forms are stored within the cells of our bodies, minds and heart causing accumulated stress and damage over time.

We are all aware of the environmental toxins affecting our health because we read and hear about them everyday. Food recalls and safe handling, new diseases and contamination make us take heed and be aware as the rules and regulations change daily to meet the challenges faced by our society. Emotional toxins are not topics we discuss often enough until their effects destroy lives and impact our daily living. Emotional toxins are stored deep within us, in our tissues, our hearts and minds. Because we may be reluctant to expose these toxins, we instead tuck them deep down out of fear and shame.  Everyone of us has been exposed to emotional toxins to some degree. Some more than others. If not addressed, discussed and healed these emotional toxins cause emotional damage to ourselves, our relationships and families. Spiritual toxins also cause damage. Living our lives to the beat of someone else’s drum, fulfilling the dreams of others, living a lie of who we really are and adhering to beliefs that are not true for us, cause spiritual pain. Sometimes this is the story of our whole lives reaching the end with regret and sorrow. Toxins eat away at us destroying the beautiful souls we were born to be.

Toxins must be released on a regular basis. To release these toxins change is always required, sometimes surface changes and others deep and profound. A detox is required on all levels of being. An elimination that once again restores holistic health, physical, emotional and spiritual. A close and introspective examination of what is no longer serving you, what is no longer healthy for you, what is no longer in the best interests of your overall well-being and purpose. What is harming you. You can feel toxins within your body if you take the time to listen, feel and observe yourself. To pay attention to your soul when it alerts you to what does not feel right for you. Are you aware of that feeling? It is called your intuition. Do you listen to it or are your constantly pushing it aside, ignoring the red flags. Do you tell yourself it doesn’t matter or worse you don’t matter. Do you constantly internalize the opinions of others and their beliefs about you rather than trusting and having the strength to believe in your own? Do you know what you believe, physically, emotionally and spiritually? Before a detox can occur, there must be an complete self-scan and examination.

Time for a full body scan at all levels is a priority for ourselves. A time out. A re-evaluation of our life purpose, our life path, what we put in, what we give out. What we can change to feel better, healthy, less burdened and weighed down. How we can bring more joy and happiness into our lives. How we can feel good about who we are and why we are here. The bottom line is, we need to release toxins and believe that it is in our power to do so. Empowerment. Release the victim mentality that holds you captive in a prison of your own making. Explore the beautiful release experiences available to us all. Yoga, green clean eating programs, Reiki and Tai Chi. Bicycling and therapy, meditation and nature. Walking and pets, rescue and adoption. Volunteering and service. A good neighbor, a good soul. A smile and a hello. A much needed goodbye. Learning the word ‘no’ is a complete sentence. There are a multitude of ways to detox most of which cost nothing. You deserve the life you were brought here to live. Believe me when I tell you, no one other than you will give you that life. Your life, your responsibility. Do yourself a favor and release the toxins from your life. It begins with the word ‘yes’ for yourself.

Create Solutions


This is a New Year. A time to stop having conversations with your past. A time to cease ruminating over conversations, relationships and events which took a wrong turn, went east instead of west, stood still or sank to the bottom of a deep Cancerian ocean. Perhaps went up in Aries flames with air fueled by Libra, Gemini or Aquarius. Maybe there was interference from a Sagittarius, Capricorn or Scorpio. Or was it simply Divine Intervention? However it is that you define events of your past, the end result is the same unless you have created solutions to the problem.

Think of how much negative energy is expended from our minds, heart and soul to continue to ruminate on the past. Over and over creating the same scenarios, same people,  same conversations, same negative thoughts. The same outcome. Imagine how our energy would feel if we spent that time thinking and planning positive solutions to our problems. Imagine how our brain chemistry might change for the better creating beautiful solutions and outcomes. Just imagine sending out loving energy to the people and places you have lost along the way. And while you have no control over the outcome of the other people involved, it costs nothing to your soul to imagine positive creative solutions. In fact, we know from brain imaging that our brains and bodies resonate at a higher level of consciousness when we think and feel positively.

How then can we create solutions using our energy for good? How can we turn our dark thoughts around, the ones that keep us stuck going nowhere, spinning our wheels. First, ask yourself if a solution is possible. If you say no, then how come you have not been able to let the problem go? If you say yes, then lace up your boot straps, put on your big girl or boy pants and lets begin this journey. Besides, if your coffee maker or tea-pot were broken, I am sure you would have no problem figuring out a solution to get your next cup of java.

Now, sit down with a pen and paper and write down the problem in a simple short statement. That statement might look something like, I said something to hurt______. Or, my drinking has caused relationship problems with______. You may have more than one statement simply because you are human but, start with the most important one affecting your life. Now begin to create a list of solutions without worrying about the success or failure of the outcome. Perhaps you will have a list of Plan A, Plan B and Plan C. The goal is not to judge but, rather to create solutions no matter how unattainable they may seem. Remember there are no wrong answers as long as your ego is out-of-the-way and your intention is pure and kind hearted. Once you have finished your list be kind to yourself and honor your strength and courage for completing the task. Take a moment to tune in with how you feel. And just sit with this new feeling for a little while. Have a cup of tea or coffee.

The next step is to replace your old ways of ruminating and negative thinking with the list of positive solutions that you have created. Imagine each scenario with the positive solution. How do outcomes look different? How differently do you feel? How has the energy of your soul changed? Are you now sleeping better at night with your new creative solutions?

The final step is to begin implementing your creative solutions into unresolved events of the past. Start slow with Fire to light your passion instead of burning bridges. With Air to fuel the positive beautiful loving energy within you and others.  With Water to shed the pent-up emotions of yesterday and soothe the burns and scars left on your soul. With Earth to ground you to your roots and new beginnings. To plant the seed for new growth to flourish. May each and every one of you have a beautiful year creating the solutions that will forever change your life. The power for change lies within you. Use it to create. Solutions.

Stepping In Stepping Out

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“You put your right foot in, You take your right foot out, You put your right foot in and you shake it all about. You do the hokey pokey and you  turn yourself around. That’s what it’s all about.”

 At about age 30 and from there on in, you begin to realize your life and the people in it is like the Hokey Pokey. People step in and out of your life all the time. Some stay with you for a lifetime, very rare today. Some stop in for awhile bringing laughter and joy, fun times, connectedness, friendship, a helping hand. Others pop in and out like the right foot, finding their place within the relationship is somehow a bit off and wobbly, not quite fitting in,  their direction going south while yours goes north. Perhaps a great shopping partner but, not so great at coffee and a chat. Some stop by in times of struggle while others run like they are participants in the 500 metre dash. Some are destination gatherers where adventure is shared along with sunshine and feasts at the buffet tables spread out for kings. If you live long enough, people have a way of coming back into your life, coming full circle, returning once again, having lived their life purpose, to share it with you. Finding each other in the most unexpected places and spaces, reconnecting, hearts touching hearts.

“You put your left hand in, you put your left hand out. You put your left hand in and you shake it all about. You do the hokey pokey and you turn yourself around. That’s what it’s all about.”

Whether people come into your life for just a little while, their stay long, short, each one brings to you a great gift. A lesson. A teaching. Some sages, some fools, others hierophants or hermits. Magicians or lovers like the cards of the tarot, each individual brings to us an experience, mystical in it’s dealing and meaning like the spread of a card reading upon the table of your life. Few have pondered the people who come in and out, fewer still have written a list and reflected on the lessons they brought or took away. And yet, these are the very people who brought joy, sadness, anger, love and mirrored the parts of ourselves kept hidden until their presence was made known in our lives.  This is how we learn and come to know the most sacred aspects of ourselves. Through the experiences we share with others. And ponder deeper, deeper yet, still deeper, to the lessons you have brought others.

Stepping into someone’s life comes with it responsibility, courage, respect, honesty in living your most authentic self and life. You are the teacher, the provider of lessons to people you meet and greet each and every day, the people who have stepped into your life for a long while and the ones who left quickly, quietly, in a hush like wind blowing upon meadow grasses or the ones who bought the storm clouds, hurricanes, and tornados. You come to people for the very same reasons they  come to you. We are all born with the same purpose of bringing lessons. Isn’t that amazing! A commonality among all peoples. We are all teachers, some just beginning , some who have taught for awhile, others sages, wise and gentle in their ways. Students, some just beginning, finding their lessons difficult, others learning more quickly, moving through the lessons with ease and transparency. Teachers and students all of us all the time. The classroom of life. What are you here to teach?   What are you here to learn?

‘You put your whole self in, you take your whole self out. You put your whole self in and you shake it all about. You do the hokey pokey and you turn yourself around. That’s what it’s all about.”

The Hokey Pokey was written by Larry LaPrise in the United States in the 1940’s and performed by the musical group Ram Trio. My own interpretation of this delightful children’s song is a lesson about how much of ourselves we take in and out of relationships. To sing and dance to it with children is indeed a joy.

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